Men's Work Directory

Purpose Coaching for Men

The question of purpose — what am I here for, what actually matters — confronts most men at some point, often with urgency. These coaches and programs help men get underneath the noise and find direction that is genuinely their own.

40+ programs
Global practitioners
All backgrounds welcome

Who this is for

  • Men in midlife or transition who feel the ache of unlived potential and want more than achievement
  • Those who have reached their goals and found them hollow — and are asking "what now?"
  • Men who sense they're here to contribute something specific but can't yet see what it is
  • Anyone ready to move from drifting or performing to living with clarity, direction, and fire

The question beneath the achievement

Many men don't arrive at the purpose question because things are falling apart. They arrive because things are fine and they feel nothing. The goals were reached. The milestones were hit. And somewhere in the hitting of them, the thread was lost. Purpose is not produced by achieving. It's found in genuine contribution to something that matters, in living from actual values rather than inherited expectations, and in a quality of aliveness that success alone has never been able to manufacture.

How men find their way back to meaning

Purpose work in men's coaching and retreat programs operates at the level of depth, not strategy. It works with what's alive in a man, his grief, his longing, the things that have always mattered even when they were suppressed, and helps him orient from there. Rites-of-passage retreats, wilderness immersion, structured cohorts, and depth coaching all provide containers for this inquiry. The work isn't complicated: it requires honesty, the willingness to grieve the life lived on autopilot, and the company of other men who are asking the same questions.

What purpose coaching for men actually involves

Purpose coaching for men differs from conventional life coaching in that it works at the level of depth, not strategy. The goal isn't to produce a five-year plan or a mission statement. It's to help a man understand what he actually values, separate from what he's been conditioned to want, what he has grieved and not yet named, and what genuine aliveness feels like for him specifically. A purpose coach for men typically works through structured inquiry, honest reflection on what's working and what isn't, and often some form of somatic or body-based practice, because purpose isn't a thought. It's a felt orientation. Many coaches work in a group or cohort structure alongside one-on-one sessions, because the witness of other men doing the same inquiry changes what becomes possible. The men who engage purpose coaching most fully are those willing to be honest about the gap between the life they're living and the one they sense they're capable of.

Programs & coaches

29 listings for men's purpose & meaning support

Travis Streb — Not Done Yet

Program & Retreats

Founder of Not Done Yet (NDY), men's embodiment coach and co-leader of John Wineland's EMLT. Travis runs a 1-year men's cohort for purpose, legacy, and depth. 5…

Mendocino, CA (retreat) · Online (program)NDY 1-year program: $2,500 deposit · Retreat: $1,500–$2,800EmbodimentBreathworkShadow Work
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Dan DeSena — Sexual Self-Mastery & Embodiment Coaching

Coaching Program

Licensed psychotherapist (LMSW) turned embodiment coach with 17+ years of experience. Specializes in men's sexual health, emotional intelligence, and somatic he…

Ann Arbor, MI (in-person) · Online (global)Sexual Self-Mastery course: contact · 1:1 coaching: schedule discovery callSexual HealthSomaticEmbodiment
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Nic Warner — Men's Embodiment & Transformation Coach

Coach

Former retail architect turned transformational coach. Works with men on embodiment, shadow work, relationship dynamics, purpose, intergenerational trauma, sexu…

New Zealand · Online — Global · Events Worldwide1:1 Coaching: by application · Programs: see nicwarner.comEmbodimentShadow WorkPolarity
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Eli Buren — Zion Men's Immersion & Coaching

Retreat & Coaching

23-year practitioner and longtime teaching assistant to David Deida. Eli leads the legendary annual Zion Men's Immersion in remote Utah canyon country, European…

Zion, UT · Denmark · Online (global)Zion Immersion (8 days): $3,500+ · 1:1 coaching: contactEmbodimentDepth WorkNature
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David Deida — Way of the Superior Man

Teacher / Author

Internationally renowned spiritual teacher and author of 11 books in 35+ languages. Deida originated the modern sexual polarity framework and has taught worksho…

Worldwide (US, Europe, online)Books from $15 · Online training $197–$997 · Live intensives $2,000–$5,000PolaritySacred IntimacyPurpose
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Illuman — Men's Rites of Passage

Retreat

Founded by Fr. Richard Rohr. Multi-day rites-of-passage retreats drawing on Jungian archetypes, council work, nature, ritual, and story. Radically inclusive of…

Multiple US locations + international chapters$300–$900 (sliding scale) · Awaken annual conference: $400–$900SpiritualArchetypesRites of Passage
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Hoffman Process — Residential Retreat

Retreat

The Hoffman Process is an intensive 7-day residential retreat addressing negative patterns inherited from parents and childhood. Internationally recognized, res…

Multiple US locations + internationalFrom $5,000–$6,500 (all-inclusive residential)Residential RetreatChildhood PatternsResearch-Backed
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A Shift in Being — Men's Transformation Programs

Program

Men's transformation programs focusing on identity, purpose, and breaking through the patterns keeping men stuck. Group containers and 1:1 coaching.

Online (global)Group programs: contact · 1:1 Coaching: by applicationTransformationPurposeIdentity
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John Wineland — Embodied Men's Leadership Training

Program & Workshops

World-renowned men's work and sacred intimacy teacher. Author of 'From the Core.' His flagship EMLT is a 6-month container for masculine embodiment, leadership,…

Austin, TX + Online (global)EMLT 6-month: $5,600 · Workshops: $800–$2,500Embodied LeadershipPolaritySacred Intimacy
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Thirteen Pines — Ascent Men's Intensive

Retreat

4-day men's retreat in the Texas Hill Country. Brotherhood, fire ceremony, embodied leadership, and deep nature immersion. Co-founded by Allan McGrath Isbell.

Texas Hill CountryContact thirteenpines.com for current pricingBrotherhoodLeadershipNature
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Speed Weed — Working Deep

Coaching & Program

Speed Weed runs Working Deep — a men's embodiment program including weekly online circles, the flagship 108 Days 15-week cohort, and in-person Montana retreats.…

Online (global) · Bitterroot Valley, MT (retreat)Weekly circle: free first session · 108 Days cohort: contact · Montana retreat: contactEmbodimentBrotherhoodOnline
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Dr. Robert Glover — No More Mr. Nice Guy

Author & Coach

Author of the landmark "No More Mr. Nice Guy." Dr. Glover helps men break free from Nice Guy Syndrome — people-pleasing, hidden agendas, and passive-aggressive…

Puerto Vallarta, MX (workshops) · Online (global)TPI Workshop: contact · Integration Nation: monthly membership · 6-Month Mentorship: contactNice Guy SyndromeIntegrated MasculinityRelationships
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Ted Riter — The Authentic Man Program

Program

The Authentic Man Program (AMP) helps men develop genuine confidence, authentic presence, and real connection with women — without pickup artistry or performanc…

Bay Area, CA · Online (global)Weekend intensives: contact · Online programs: see authenticmantm.comAuthentic MasculinityConfidencePresence
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Amir Khalighi — ManKind Project / Sterling Men's Weekend

Facilitator

Longtime facilitator with ManKind Project and the Sterling Men's Weekend. Amir works with men on initiation, purpose, accountability, and brotherhood through we…

US (various locations)Weekend intensive: contact for pricing · Men's groups: contactInitiationBrotherhoodManKind Project
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ManKind Project — New Warrior Training Adventure

Organization

Global organization running the New Warrior Training Adventure — an intensive weekend initiation for men since 1985. Followed by iGroups (ongoing weekly men's g…

Worldwide — 40+ countriesNew Warrior Training Adventure: $650–$900 · iGroups: low or no costInitiationBrotherhoodGlobal
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Evryman — Men's Groups & Retreats

Organization

Men's community platform offering weekly online men's groups, in-person retreats, and a global brotherhood network. Founded by Lucas Krump and Dan Doty. Focuses…

Online (global) · In-person retreats US + internationalOnline groups: subscription · Retreats: $1,500–$3,500BrotherhoodOnline GroupsEmotional Intelligence
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Sacred Sons — Men's Brotherhood Retreats

Retreat

Multi-day nature retreats focused on healing the father wound, brotherhood, and embodied masculinity. Online community included post-retreat. Focused on love, s…

US + international locations$1,500–$3,500 · Online community: $30–$100/moBrotherhoodFather WoundNature
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Huts for Vets — Wilderness Healing Retreats

Retreat

Free wilderness therapy retreats for US veterans and active-duty service members in the Colorado Rockies. Guided hikes, group discussions, and community buildin…

Aspen / White River National Forest, COFREE to all participantsVeteransFreeWilderness
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Wounded Warrior Project — Project Odyssey

Program

12-week mental health program using adventure-based learning to help warriors manage invisible wounds including PTSD and TBI. Free to eligible veterans and serv…

Nationwide USFREE for eligible veteransVeteransPTSDFree
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MELD — Men's Somatic Retreat & Programs (PRIME)

Retreat

MELD PRIME is a 4-day in-person somatic training retreat grounded in 70+ years of research (Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Experiencing, IFS, Hakomi). Addresses stre…

Various US locations (East and West)Contact meld.community for pricingSomaticNervous SystemScience-Based
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Alchemy of Men Retreat

Retreat

4-day retreat on a 500+ acre Texas ranch led by Master Certified Coaches. Addresses belief systems, leadership, relationships, and brotherhood through workshops…

Texas ranch$2,500–$4,000 (lodging + meals included)LeadershipBrotherhoodShadow Work
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Preston Smiles — Love Louder

Coach & Author

Author of "Love Louder" and international motivational speaker. Preston Smiles coaches men and couples on love, purpose, and authentic living. Known for bringin…

Online (global) + events worldwideOnline programs: $97–$997 · Coaching: by application · Events: variableLovePurposeAuthor
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AJ Mars — The Authentic Man's Path

Coach

Men's coach specializing in authenticity, purpose, and breaking free from people-pleasing. Works with men in 1:1 coaching and group programs to step into their…

Online (global)1:1 Coaching: by application · Group programs: contactAuthenticityPurposePeople Pleasing
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ManTalks — Men's Self-Leadership & Community

Program & Community

Founded by Connor Beaton. Programs include The Alliance (men's community), Men's Self-Leadership Program (MSLP), Shadow Course, Relationship Mastery, men's week…

Online — Global · Live events worldwideThe Alliance: community membership · MSLP: cohort pricing · Courses: online · Private coaching: by applicationMen's Mental HealthShadow WorkSelf-Leadership
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Danni Pomplun — Queer Men's Work, Yoga & Executive Coaching

Coach

Queer, embodied coach and yoga teacher in San Francisco leading men's workshops, executive coaching, and somatic practice through a queer, soul-rooted lens. Mer…

San Francisco, CA · Online — GlobalExecutive Coaching: by inquiry · Men's Workshops: by inquiry · Yoga: see scheduleLGBTQ+Queer Men's WorkYoga
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Stefanos Sifandos — Relationship Coach & Behavioural Scientist

Coach

Relationship coach, behavioural scientist, and educator with 15+ years experience. Featured in Bloomberg, Forbes, and Fox News. Programs include The Conscious M…

Online — Global1:1 Coaching: by inquiry · Group programs: see stefanossifandos.comRelationshipsBehavioural ScienceCouples
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Taylor Sleaford — Life, Leadership & Men's Work Coach

Coach

Life and leadership coach in Denver offering men's work, leadership coaching, and the Threshold men's work program. Gets to root cause rather than symptoms. Hel…

Denver, CO · Online — Global1:1 Coaching: by application · Group programs: see taylorsleaford.comMen's WorkLeadershipPurpose
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Allan McGrath Isbell — Relationship & Intimacy Coaching

Coach

Men's embodiment coach and intimacy mentor specialising in masculine training, polarity, and sacred relationship. Works with men and couples to break free from…

Online — Global · In-person Immersions1:1 Mentorship: by application · Couples Coaching: by application · Free men's group availableIntimacyPolarityRelationships
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Jose Alejandro — The Initiated Path

Coach & Facilitator

Master certified coach, men's work facilitator, embodiment teacher, and wilderness rite of passage guide with 9+ years of experience. Guides purpose-driven men…

Online (global) · In-person retreatsPrivate coaching: by application · IMPACT Program: contact · Training Grounds: contactEmbodied LeadershipRites of PassageWilderness Initiation
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Common questions

I have a good life. Why do I feel like something's missing?

Because a good life is not the same as a meaningful one. Purpose isn't produced by achieving. It's found in genuine contribution to something that matters, in living from actual values rather than inherited expectations. Many men who've achieved the markers of success arrive at this question and feel guilty for asking it. The question itself is a sign of maturity, not ingratitude.

How do I find my purpose? Is there an exercise for that?

Purpose isn't found through an exercise. It's uncovered through honest inquiry over time, with support. What you consistently care about, what makes you lose track of time, what breaks your heart: these are clues. A good men's coach who works with purpose helps you read those clues and follow them, rather than reverse-engineer a mission statement.

I've tried finding purpose through religion and therapy and neither really worked.

Purpose work in the men's work space tends to operate at a level between religion and therapy, working with what's alive in a man, his grief, his longing, his specific history, and helping him orient from there. Depth coaching, rites-of-passage retreats, and structured peer cohorts all work at this level in ways that complement both belief-based and symptom-focused approaches.

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