Rohr's foundational introduction to contemplative Christianity argues that the goal of prayer is not petition or performance but a shift in consciousness — a way of seeing in which everything, including suffering, failure, and darkness, is included within the embrace of the sacred. The title phrase captures the non-dual stance that Rohr returns to throughout his work. For men who have struggled with prayer as a transaction or performance, this book reframes it as a practice of presence rather than production. Rohr draws on Thomas Merton, the Desert Fathers, and his own experience as a retreat director to offer practical guidance. This is a book that has genuinely changed the spiritual lives of many men.