Drawing on his years living within the Tzutujil Maya community of Guatemala, Prechtel argues that grief and praise are two expressions of the same love — that the inability to grieve is simultaneously an inability to celebrate life, and that cultures which suppress grief produce men who are numb, addicted, and violent. Written with the lyrical intensity of a man who has been genuinely initiated into the mysteries of loss, this book is both a teaching and a lament. For men who have been taught that grief is weakness, or who carry unprocessed losses from decades of living, it is a direct challenge and an invitation. Prechtel's indigenous perspective offers a corrective to the Western tendency to pathologize, privatize, or rush through grief.